tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post3881532030924017065..comments2024-02-23T16:17:17.868-05:00Comments on Fighting off Frumpy: When Breastfeeding Feels WrongRita Templetonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10332325707063104082noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-88712954689155016862018-01-25T12:31:44.150-05:002018-01-25T12:31:44.150-05:00I so wish I would have found this blog when my fir...I so wish I would have found this blog when my first son was born. I started feeling that dread even before he was born. It began the last month of my pregnancy and the sensation was similar to the feeling you get when you get terrible news, like your heart just drops. I chalked it up to anxiety but it didn't go away after he was born and I noticed the pattern with breastfeeding. I was the one who told my lactation consultant about it! This was only a couple of years ago. I'm due with # 2 in a few months and hope I don't have to go through that again. Heather408https://www.blogger.com/profile/01722983959444078730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-15527208432473072142016-04-08T02:43:24.659-04:002016-04-08T02:43:24.659-04:00I am so glad I found this!! I have searched a few ...I am so glad I found this!! I have searched a few times trying to figure out if I was crazy-but never could find anything! I have 4 children and each time I nursed them progressively less and less-untl with my 18 month old I didn't nurse him at all. I never have told anyone the REAL reason I didn't want to nurse him. So glad to know that I'm not just loco �� Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04426775645747946062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-72746166837545381952015-01-06T00:07:00.011-05:002015-01-06T00:07:00.011-05:00So now, it's 2015, and I followed some links o...So now, it's 2015, and I followed some links on other posts to find this. You are my second friend with D-MER. Seriously, I wish there were a way to get more information to women on all the crazy stuff that can and does happen to women after they give birth. Thank you for being so honest and open with this. :)The Atomic Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11898486879415952446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-32499470680260170732014-05-28T08:45:07.321-04:002014-05-28T08:45:07.321-04:00I wonder if it has something also to do with oral ...I wonder if it has something also to do with oral contraceptive use prior to pregnancy or post partum. Never touch the stuff myself, but almost all the women I know have used it. But, I breastfed my eldest for 2.5 years -one boy and one girl and now breastfeeding third child - a boy. My first, a boy, was wonderful - a great feeder and a pleasure to feed. No D-MER, but I did have discomfort with the second, cuz she tried to sip me like a straw and wiggled her fingers in my armpit which was really annoying. But with my third I sometimes feel anxious right before a feed and a bit crabby/grumpy until he's latched and feeding. He's a sipper too. Then a feeling of relief settles in, but I have to consciously relax and clear my mind. But something I found that helped a great deal was Mother's Milk tea. Makes you produce more milk, but also I have more positive energy and the post partum cramping felt less. Stephnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-24600353764707207272013-02-26T21:32:14.682-05:002013-02-26T21:32:14.682-05:00I breastfed my 1st son till he was 16 months even ...I breastfed my 1st son till he was 16 months even though I felt awful and anxious probably about 8/10 times. Just for the sheer fact he wouldnt take bottle and I felt I would be crazy to not while I produce so much milk. But besides the awful feelings I would be starving but if I ate anything the feelings would get worst. I haunt read anything about that aspect of this but of anyone else has felt this way it would be good to know I'm not alone, as I am currently nursing my second who is now 4 months and I still get the feelings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-61599118857632433712012-02-24T22:16:46.820-05:002012-02-24T22:16:46.820-05:00I just stumbled upon this-- I am so glad to read a...I just stumbled upon this-- I am so glad to read about your experience. I had the same experience with my daughters for the first month or so of breastfeeding and was very confused by it. This has definitely brought me some clarity!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-62700127057716852062011-07-13T11:07:26.061-04:002011-07-13T11:07:26.061-04:00THANK YOU! I thought I was just a broken person. ...THANK YOU! I thought I was just a broken person. This answers so many questions and hopefully this will open the door to healing for me. I'm seriously on the verge of tears, I have such relief to know that it isn't just me. I have felt so alone for so long experiencing this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-15867422189225100472011-05-05T00:33:36.662-04:002011-05-05T00:33:36.662-04:00I experienced this as well. I was so depressed dur...I experienced this as well. I was so depressed during breastfeeding, but in between feedings I felt fine! I thought I was going crazy. I was so surprised I hated it so much. I had great support and was able to breastfeed for 7 months despite the overwhelming depression during feedings. Glad to know I'm not alone! Thanks for the post.Rachellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09680878638386939541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-75446026804927521132010-04-20T03:26:56.637-04:002010-04-20T03:26:56.637-04:00I'm a first time mom and I feel I'm not al...I'm a first time mom and I feel I'm not alone. Breastfeeding is very difficult. In this post full of emotions and opinions. I love breastfeeding my daughter and never think of anything that could give me stress towards breastfeeding.Camille|Hands Free Pumping Brahttp://www.simplewishes.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-72407366817433076552010-02-23T21:51:44.356-05:002010-02-23T21:51:44.356-05:00I am going through something like that right now a...I am going through something like that right now and I don't know what to do. My husband wants me to keep going, and I know it is the best choice for our daughter, but it just isn't enjoyable and I get so worked up as she starts to wake to nurse. She is only 10 days old and I love her to bits, but breast feeding puts a damper on things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-32120171472269264722009-10-28T22:50:43.707-04:002009-10-28T22:50:43.707-04:00Wow, it seems a lot of moms (in your comments, any...Wow, it seems a lot of moms (in your comments, anyway) have experienced this. I was going to say that I think I've heard other women complain of this, or simply that they did not enjoy breastfeeding. Then my memory got jogged back to the early weeks with my son, and I remembered the overwhelming feeling of dread, depression and guilt I got every time I pumped (we had major breasfeeding issues). And then I remembered having this feeling a few times while nursing him, too, and I most definitely always felt extreme exhaustion upon let-down in those early days. I thought those bad feelings were because of our breastfeeding difficulties--you know, psychological.<br /><br />Happily, those bad feelings did go away. I don't know how long it took, maybe a few months? I was so excited whenever he latched and nursed properly that I probably ignored these feelings during nursing, but DEFINITELY felt them during pumping!! I'm happy to say that it got much better, I never feel that way now, and we are happily nursing at 16 months.<br /><br />By the way, you are an awesome mama to push through this!Lisa Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00110779167509779880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-69300517615025368562009-10-26T17:05:25.181-04:002009-10-26T17:05:25.181-04:00i felt this for the first 2 months or so that i wa...i felt this for the first 2 months or so that i was nursing. i always assumed it was ppd (which i struggled with with my first 3 children). thank you for posting this. although i'm no longer experiencing this, it's nice to know for future reference!Jeaninehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13845700554981477406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-63821216015353172902009-10-26T15:43:33.055-04:002009-10-26T15:43:33.055-04:00Thanks for the informative post on an issue I don&...Thanks for the informative post on an issue I don't think many moms know about. Is this covered in any of the breastfeeding books? I don't even know, never heard of it myself until quite recently.Elitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01294923997458681675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-91368415495851332642009-10-26T13:28:02.899-04:002009-10-26T13:28:02.899-04:00I wonder how much of this has to do with our socie...I wonder how much of this has to do with our society's subtle (and not so subtle) messages about breastfeeding. I wonder if this is an issue for women in other countries. It's great that there is research being done on this and that you were brave enough to share!thoughtfulmammahttp://www.thoughtfulmamma.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-86943919633472797842009-10-26T13:06:04.805-04:002009-10-26T13:06:04.805-04:00This sounds close to along the same lines as Post-...This sounds close to along the same lines as Post-Partum Depression. I wonder how many moms are not being properly diagnosed?Melodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05859568015767404451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-90394717700726607122009-10-26T11:21:44.878-04:002009-10-26T11:21:44.878-04:00Wow. I've never heard of this before but it s...Wow. I've never heard of this before but it sounds awful. You did so well to nurse at all with this to cope with as well.Cave Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08489375502067939290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-44770154121365877392009-10-21T22:39:28.922-04:002009-10-21T22:39:28.922-04:00This is so interesting. Glad you figured it out. ...This is so interesting. Glad you figured it out. Wow. Who knew?jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07476357743305807805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-18182647479355910072009-10-18T21:05:35.052-04:002009-10-18T21:05:35.052-04:00So that's what was happening to me 20 years ag...So that's what was happening to me 20 years ago! I breastfed my baby for 1 1/2 years. I do have fond memories of that, but I also have memories of just a few seconds of a heavy quilt feeling. Yes, let-down never failed to follow that. I just always figured it was hormones doing silly things. This is interesting!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-68033787613100092192009-10-16T16:43:23.006-04:002009-10-16T16:43:23.006-04:00I had the same feelings, maybe even worse. I felt...I had the same feelings, maybe even worse. I felt like my stomach was coiling up like a snake. I never got a warm and fuzzy feeling while bfeeding. It was not enjoyable to me, and I felt guilty that I didn't like it. like something was wrong with me. It was like that split second before the Dr. sticks the needle in your arm for a shot. Only longer and more disconcerting. no fun.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-47199149975790050822009-10-14T22:54:21.906-04:002009-10-14T22:54:21.906-04:00Amazing discovery! Who would have thought that eve...Amazing discovery! Who would have thought that even after my kids are grown I was still feeling guilty about not enjoying breastfeeding?! Now I won't be so hard on myself!Cathiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00721319926097303454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-65374220959514199922009-10-14T17:01:32.903-04:002009-10-14T17:01:32.903-04:00Sorry, tried to comment yesterday but couldn't...Sorry, tried to comment yesterday but couldn't for some reason. Gosh what a revelation....never heard of that before. Although I have only recently stopped feeding number five I don't remember suffering from any of those feelings, just pain...a lot for up to the first three months. I hope it eases off for you. xChic Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01803588856685163353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-21860201203387295302009-10-14T10:17:20.881-04:002009-10-14T10:17:20.881-04:00Great, honest post. I breastfed for 8 weeks until ...Great, honest post. I breastfed for 8 weeks until I got mastitis..the lactation consultant told me I HAD TO continue breast feeding even with 104 fever and cement boobs. ummmmm....no.JennyMachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14594526663480442855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-58768102182008391222009-10-14T08:22:27.525-04:002009-10-14T08:22:27.525-04:00Wow...I never knew such a thing existed. I'm s...Wow...I never knew such a thing existed. I'm so sorry you've been having such a difficult time.<br />CONGRATULATIONS on making it to a month! Coby is one lucky little baby!Mehttp://huginnmuninnandme.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-31263288916112265142009-10-14T01:22:55.733-04:002009-10-14T01:22:55.733-04:00That's very interesting. I'm not a mom so ...That's very interesting. I'm not a mom so I have never experienced that before, but now I know if that does ever happen to me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7734712521038551440.post-12659052455109223302009-10-13T23:34:43.809-04:002009-10-13T23:34:43.809-04:00that is really interesting. I wonder if I experie...that is really interesting. I wonder if I experienced a bit of that myself, although I had such issues with supply that my breastfeeding days were numbered anyway. Congrats on finding out what it was. By the way, I picked you as one of my recipients for the Honest Scrap award. check out my blog for info.lonek8https://www.blogger.com/profile/09217503506508289374noreply@blogger.com